"It saddens me to see girls proudly declaring they’re not like other girls – especially when it’s 41,000 girls saying it in a chorus, never recognizing the contradiction. It’s taking a form of contempt for women – even a hatred for women – and internalizing it by saying, Yes, those girls are awful, but I’m special, I’m not like that, instead of stepping back and saying, This is a lie.
The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you."
When I asked male interview subjects what they would like to do in bed, “ejaculation on a woman’s face” was most often at the top of their lists. But when I asked them what the attraction of this act was and whether it meant anything, their initial response was puzzlement. They had never given it much thought. With time for reflection, however, most came up with answers very similar to those of the pornographers I interviewed: it is about controlling women, doing something disgusting to them. It’s like spitting or urinating on them.
Thus something unsettling about gender relationships mediated by pornography is revealed: on-screen male domination is sugar-coated — portrayed as causing women ecstasy — which in turn arouses further desire on the part of the male viewers: the desire to experience the pleasure derived from control and aggression. And deep down, these viewers understand it. “The second you have an orgasm and that passion sinks out of your body, and you’re still watching the movie, you start to really see what’s going on,” one male college student said. “This is not sexy. This is not sex. This is not how I want to experience sex.”
Germaine Greer: “Women have no idea how much men hate them.”
WOW some real ish,Okay soo I like I know other fems have,wonder what the attraction was to this.Many a times I wanted to ask a male but knew one of two things would happen…ONE he’d take me around some long drawn out story that in the end didn’t answer my question OR TWO answer but maybe feel threated or feel like his manhood was at stake sooo give me not only a lame answer but a nasty one at that.Reading this really gives me a lot more to think about because I’ve on & off over the years have seen the group of males out here now and wondered what went wrong,why this group is the way they are but.I like what my man at the end said though ““This is not sexy. This is not sex.” real talk giving you real things to think about….
We GOT to start doing better than this and stop with the objectification we put each other through :/